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No participation trophies
Yesterday, Tapley handed me a future version of myself. She disguised it as a challenge wrapped in a joke. Heather and I laughed immediately, because Tapley has perfected the art of delivering truth sideways. We had gathered for the first time this year, the three of us resuming the accountability group we’d formed last February. Back then, we met regularly, shared goals, compared progress, and held each other steady. Then 2025 happened. It dug in its claws and dragged us off
Susan Ray
3 days ago2 min read


The Joy Experiment
As I mentioned in my first 2026 story , one of my 2026 goals is to write a book tentatively titled The Joy Experiment . I know, I know, I know. I have a whole slew of unfinished books I need to finish and no shortage of new book ideas. This is actually a good problem to have as a writer. Now that my muse has come out of hiding, I'm working with her to reignite the prolific writer I was prior to 2016 when my heart broke and my soul crumbled. To put it simply... I'm back! So, w
Susan Ray
Feb 173 min read


To Super Bowl or not to Super Bowl
Today is the day, the Super Bowl. I have been sitting in quiet contemplation ever since the division championships, wondering whether or not I would watch. Seems like a simple decision, but some things are not so simple. In fact, some things are filled with an overwhelming serving of excitement, bitterness, sadness, anger, and confusion. With Diva Daughter at Seahawks game in San Diego. I used to be both a Patriots and a Seahawks fan. Then I gave up the Patriots because I fin
Susan Ray
Feb 83 min read


I went to the gym...and it sucked
Yep, not even going to try and sugar coat it. I dragged my aging, overweight, out of shape body to the gym today. And it royally sucked. As part of my wellness goals this year, I decided when my foot was healed enough from surgery, I would join the gym. Last week, I graduated from physical therapy and that same day, joined the gym. Go me! I asked ChatGPT to create a training plan for me. I gave it lots of details, as you can see in the prompt to the right. The results it gave
Susan Ray
Feb 33 min read


2025 was an epic failure
I have never been a fan of New Year's Resolutions. Like so many people, I do well at the start of the year, and then those resolutions fade to black before they are ever fully achieved. I gave up resolutions long ago and leaned into goal setting instead. For some, that may be a matter of semantics, but for me, it feels more purposeful. I love a good check list and a list of goals to strive towards. It is one way to keep me focused and motivated. In 2025, after leaving a toxic
Susan Ray
Jan 64 min read


The Emptiness Machine
It started with a song, one I know well, have listened to countless times. It was the song that brought Linkin Park onto the stage, and...
Susan Ray
Aug 26, 20255 min read


The Last First Kiss
June 13, 1985. Do you know what you were doing that day? I sure do. The magic of a first kiss It was my last day of seventh grade and...
Susan Ray
Aug 12, 20253 min read


Spontaneity is the spice of life
When I was young, I was known for my spontaneity. I lived in the moment and loved any crazy adventure that would make a good memory. As I...
Susan Ray
Jul 29, 20252 min read


Follow through is thine enemy
It's been a couple years since I've shared any stories here. Lots of excuses for stepping away, but what really matters are the two good...
Susan Ray
Jul 1, 20253 min read


50s First Dates
I don't like dating, but I like being in a relationship, so dating is a necessary evil to get there. I have found that the feelings...
Susan Ray
May 9, 20233 min read


Happy 2nd Divorciversary
Sunday marked two years since my divorce got the stamp of approval from a judge. Two years. I'm happy to report, it was just another day,...
Susan Ray
May 2, 20232 min read


Tribute
The transport was late, having suffered a mechanical issue on the long journey from Tennessee. We were all anxious - excited to meet our...
Susan Ray
Apr 25, 20234 min read


The Bad Influence
"I think she's a bad influence," my mother said to 15 year old me about my friend Amy C. This memory popped into my head over the weekend...
Susan Ray
Apr 18, 20234 min read


Thank you, Derek Morgan
"As you’re giving it attention, you are now including the vibration of your desire in your current vibration. Your current vibration is...
Susan Ray
Apr 11, 20233 min read


The Little Things...
One of my closest friends is going through a thing right now. Since I'm recovering from a broken heart too, we call upon each other...
Susan Ray
Apr 4, 20232 min read


Soberest Breakup in History
I've always been a bit of a drinker. I enjoy the taste of beer and used to joke that I'd lose weight when beer stopped tasting good. I...
Susan Ray
Mar 28, 20233 min read


I AM the Picture of Perfect Health
Nerds worldwide know March 10 as Mario Day, but this year, MAR 10 meant Kidney Day, a day I both love and hate in equal measure. Kidney...
Susan Ray
Mar 21, 20233 min read


Independence
It is International Women's Day (March 8) when I write this post and today I am celebrating the women who have inspired me to be a better...
Susan Ray
Mar 14, 20233 min read


Elusive Words & Sentiments
One of the biggest emotions I've had to deal with in the aftermath of my husband cheating is the absence of regret...not on my part, but...
Susan Ray
Mar 7, 20233 min read


I am the Memory Keeper
Author note: when I drafted this, I was with my guy. Three days before the scheduled posting, we broke up. That's a story for another...
Susan Ray
Feb 28, 20234 min read
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